Jobs and anything can be quite tough. If you have aging parents with health problems requiring care then life can be more challenging.
In a perfect world, my parents wouldn’t age at all. They would live strong and independently well into their 90’s and be travelling the world and requiring very little care. The next best thing would be that my parents are over 70 years old and my kids would be late teens/early 20’s with nothing much really to do and be able to be assist with any care they need. But the reality often is that everyone is often busy with their own lives and have no time to care for aging relatives. In some cases, the cost of nursing home care is more per month than our parents ever earned per month during the peak of their income earning years. So how do we manage to care, live and keep our jobs all at the same time? We simply manage. Here are a few things to keep in mind:
(1) Hire Home Help! If you don’t have a young adult family member who could provide care for next to nothing, then maybe hiring a junior nurse to come would be cheaper and most people don’t like to leave to comfort of the own kingdom that they have worked hard for anyways.
(2) Plan! Have activity, songs and games planned for them. Even if they have dementia and some memory loss, a stimulated mind does wonders. Anything else may be considered abuse.
(3) Protect Your Mental Health! Don’t be overly suspicious and be looking for problems. Your eyes, ears and senses are essential! In a lot of cases where there is concern there’s usually a reason. What we mean here is don’t work yourself into a frenzy unnecessarily. Talk to a professional therapist if you need to.
(4) Keep yourself well! You can’t care for someone or work if you yourself become ill. It may mean making a lot of sacrifices, reducing social outings to get sufficient rest, eat well…3 meals a day and exercise.
(5) Don’t Blame! It’s not your fault nor is it theirs. If you’ve lived as long as they have they must have done something right? They would have survived several governments, several promises, several broken hearts, several changes and their still here. They’ll have many stories that’s unfamiliar to us simply because we didn’t exist at the time, too young to remember or didn’t know. We live in an age where we have to have a 3 year degree and “only” be a cashier or gas attendant but a lot of them never made it beyond primary education and so may or may not have known the economics of life.
(6) Be patient and have fun! Caring for the aging doesn’t mean the end of the world but it is not time bound so be sure take moments and have fun as well.
(7) Keep Working! Whether you keep your job, get a new job or work from home it’s ideal to keep working. This helps you to keep well, get an income and prepare for your own future and care needs. Seeking a new job at this time may also be risky. A new job with a higher pay may be needed to keep up with extra expenses and responsibility but joining a new environment, where no one knows you and may be less sympathetic to your circumstances may or may not be the best thing so keep that in mind when deciding. You may not be able to keep the job you have in the process but you may actually find a better one.
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