This is a topic I know all too well. For anyone who has been out of a job for any length of time, you really know the value of having a job but sometimes unfortunately it seem this even comes at a cost.
Now i’ll be honest, I’ve never had to deal with sexual harassment in a workplace although I did have a Manager tell me once that I wasn’t that good-looking. I was surprised by the comment as I didn’t “know where it came from” but I took it to mean that he was probably having conversations with someone about me behind my back but I still didn’t really see it as sexual harassment nor did I really care. But that lack of care changed when a female “colleague” expressed to me that she was about to get married. I offered congratulations and mentioned that I too was planning on getting married. By the time I got home that evening, my sister was called and she was somehow to get me to a therapist. I couldn’t correlate the two but I kept my mouth shut after that and went on to have a beautiful hotel wedding and an exotic honeymoon. Needless to say there was no job waiting for me when I got back…in fact they did everything possible to deem that I was mentally incapacitated and unfit to work and make sure that I never worked again. Meanwhile, when my sister turned forty years old, her colleagues planned a “surprise” birthday party complete with secret taste testing by me, limo ride and red carpet fit for a queen. I went on to plan some weddings and events, I got “help” for the problem I “never had” and prepared myself for the next opportunity that presented itself. I was determined to never work for anyone else after that, but I got a call for a job and we thought it best that I take it at the time. Gratitude was boundless but the similarities were eerie. No one with any sense could truly complain in totality about my work but to my surprise my immediate supervisor complained about using the standard letter size paper rather than the A4 size paper and she even tried to prevent me from using a particular style font in Microsoft Word only because she uses it. I know companies copyright logos in a style font but I had never heard of employees copyrighting publicly available fonts for their use in an entity which wasn’t owned by them.
My Solution? LET IT GO…If they want A4 paper, then use A4 paper; If they don’t want you to use a normal legible font then change it; and if they rip your work to shreds then make the changes as necessary. I accepted long ago that I wasn’t God and didn’t know everything. After spending almost $50,000 in my currency to finish a graduate degree at a well ranked school, I was pretty confident in my ability, work ethic and product but I also know that not everyone views things the same way and that’s ok. The goal is to keep the job for as long as possible and maybe even learn from it.
**PS. Never let your workplace bring you to tears.